Is it possible not to forgive someone because what happened is unforgiveable?  There is NOTHING that can happen to us that we cannot change how it affects us by choosing how we respond to the event. NOTHING! Two men, both former prisoners of war in Vietnam, met for the first time some 15 years after their release from being held as POW’s in North Vietnam. Both men were tortured and beaten, regularly. They were deprived of proper medical attention, and nutrition for over 3 years.  They were prisoners in the worst possible conditions imaginable. Staying alive was a challenge of will and spirit. Many men did not survive the brutal conditions. During the meeting, one former prisoner asked the other “have you forgiven your...

It’s easier to blame others for our feelings. It’s not easy to own responsibility for our feelings when we have been terribly wronged. It’s equally hard to “accept” that we have no control over the actions of others   What we perceive about others hurtful actions is not always reality. The truth is that those who treat us unfairly are often the others persons “acting out” their own hurt. That’s why the saying “misery loves company” is such a true statement. People who are content and happy in their own lives, as a general rule, treat others as they are. The same holds true with those who hold anger and hate in their lives. How much we allow ourselves to...

The Man on the train A man gets on a busy subway to go to his office and begin his day. There is only one seat left. He grabs it.  Right across from him is a younger man with two kids who are being disruptive, running around, laughing loudly, and bumping into people. It is becoming more annoying by the second, made worse by the fact that the father seems oblivious to his kid’s behavior.  He doesn’t seem to care.  As frustrations rise among the other passengers, the man seated right across from him loudly tells him,  “Don’t you see that your kids are causing a disturbance, and it’s making a lot of people on this train angry!” “Why are you not...