I will be going inside a state prison in Oregon next week to conduct my workshop. It is an intense process that for many inmates will be a transformation in their lives unlike anything they have experienced before..Many tears, many emotions, and for some, it will be the very first time in their lives that they have given themselves permission to be authentic with themselves as a man and take ownership of feelings that they no longer need to be attached to. Negative feelings from the past that have kept them locked in an emotional cage. For many these emotions began as young boys 5, 6, and 7 years of age. I was just notified that a CBS Oregon affiliate will...

Is it okay not to love a family member?I realize that this question could be very controversial.But I believe that it is a question that many people in this world have asked themselves at one time or another.My goal in addressing this sensitive question, is not to convey judgments, or opinions, rather provide some deeper insight of this question that may help guide you to the right answer.Many of us in this world, have family members who have harmed us repeatedly over a long period of time.Many of us in this world have family members who we simply do not get along with.If you were on a 1st date with someone, and there was really nothing that attracted you to...

Forgetting is a bi product of having emotional closure.We do not have the ability as human beings to erase an event from our minds… there is no cut and paste where we can edit our past, take some parts out and keep the rest in.BUT…….You can make peace with the past, and in doing so, the past will fade out of your memory.It will always be there to remember, if we have some event that triggers it, but it will take a lot more to trigger it, and it will happen much less frequently once you have made peace with it.So how do you make peace with it?A good beginning is to understand that we have zero control over what...