08 May How to Forgive: Is it Better to Be Right or Content?
So much time is spent when it comes to forgiving others the need to “right a wrong” or “clear the slate” by showing or proving that the other person was wrong.
Not only is this a waste of time, it is a waste of emotional energy. And rarely do we get what we want.
Our ego gets in the way, our pride gets in the way, and we feel that there is some sort of the battle that we must win by proving someone else wrong.
Here’s the big problem with that.
The other person may very well deny any fault of theirs. So what were really trying to do is to rely on someone else to solve our feelings, when we know who is right or wrong.
Emotional freedom is an inside job always without exception 100% of the time!
It begins with us and it ends with us.
A big part of the problem is that we are so preconditioned beginning at a very young age, to hold others accountable for our feelings because of what was said or done to us.
And it’s a heck of a lot easier to point a finger at someone else, then to look within and tap into this enormous power we have to repair ourselves emotionally.
Just imagine going to your doctor for a regular checkup and after examining you the Dr. says all is good physically but as your doctor would like to know is anything going on which may be preventing you from being just as good emotionally as you are physically?
Well Doc, I am holding some hate and bitterness towards some other people including my brother and my dad.
What you think the doctor is going to say?
I don’t know of any pill in the world that’s designed to get rid of anger, hate, or bitterness.
And there’s certainly no pill out there that you can slip into the offender’s drink and make them realize that they were wrong.
I know this sounds stupid and silly, but sometimes stupid and silly can be the truth. 😊
So what!! If you’re not able to prove to someone something.
Mother Teresa was quoted as saying “people are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered
but in the final analysis it was never between you and them anyway”
think about that one!