18 Apr When it comes to forgiving, Ben Franklin got it right!
Ben Franklin, one of the greatest inventors who ever lived on the planet, had a simple but extremely effective way at making decisions.
In fact, it’s still used to this day. It’s called the Ben Franklin Close.
It is absolutely simple genius.
Simply take a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle to create two columns. Label one column “Advantages” and the other column “Disadvantages.”
I understand exactly what your thoughts are. You know where I’m going with this!
Well, as flaky as this task sounds, what if you were to take five minutes and get serious with it? Here’s how the Ben Franklin Close can help you solve your forgiveness patterns.
When it comes to forgiving those who have hurt us, most of us are battling some negative emotions such as anger, bitterness, and resentment towards at least one other person… if not multiple people.
So, if that applies to you, try to list one benefit — just one — of continuing to own these negative feelings.
Your “Advantages” column is empty, isn’t it?
And yet, over the six years I’ve been conducting seminars on the subject of forgiveness, I can tell you firsthand that there are tons of people out there who’ve been holding on to these negative feelings for decades.
Not years, but decades of living with negative emotions!
And I asked them the same questions. First:
How much longer do you feel you need to keep holding onto these feelings? And, what’s the benefit to you in doing so?
Then, I ask one more question.
What’s holding you back?
It is a step-by-step process of self-realization in the world of forgiving both ourselves, and others.